The title and content are exactly as they appeared in the letter.

Be well-read and well-spoken. Learn as much as you can about art, psychology, music. Have a place to start with a woman – try to be on the same page.

Always have something to say. Even if it’s “how you doin, mam’?” Always say something. That at least gets you noticed, and let’s them know that you notice them. Then when you have a chance to talk 1 on 1, she’ll remember all the “hi, how are you” stuff.

Always be respectful. All women want validation. You don’t have to agree with every word (you shouldn’t), but don’t shut her down. Listen before you speak, and speak when they aren’t speaking.

These girls need to know they are safe with trusting you. Let them know that they only way you’ll get in trouble is if they have proof. Only if you tell on her or if she tells on you. It doesn’t matter what they think, it matters what they can prove. Let her know you can keep your mouth shut and that you know you’re playing for highstakes.

Be honest. Be sincere. Try to be understanding and even compassionate. Take interest in her. Ask her about herself. Her life, her free time, her family & friends. Why she took this job. What her plans for the future are.

Pay attention. If she looks tired, sad, angry or flustered, ask her how she’s doing. Keep her talking.

My girl? I dropped a kite on her and told her to read it. She said she wouldn’t. I told her, “don’t ask me to take it that back, I won’t. Just read it and if you don’t like what I have to say, send to the hole.” In the kite, I told her I felt a connection to her, that she was beautiful. That I admired her courage and that I had to risk going to the hole, or risk her not knowing how I feel. Now I have that girl. I think I really do lover her. That comes later.

I can’t tell you what kind of girl to look for. I’ve had whores and angels. New girls, but start small. They don’t know what to expect, either. Make them confident that you know what the deal is and make them trust you. Above all, make them trust you.

Always talk to these girls. Always have something to say. Look them in the eye. Smile often. Be cool without trying too hard. Be honest. “I like you.” Tell then you find them attractive and you want to get to know them better. That she interests you and she can start a P.O. box in a different town, with cash, under any name. Don’t be scared to be goofy or look like an ass.

I guarantee you that every woman – every nurse, every guard, knows my name and remembers me. Make them remember you.

Don’t get caught with this. Copy it down to where you won’t get in trouble for it.

Inmates do not care who their victims are. Period. Do not be drawn into their manipulation.

Victims of inmate manipulation lose their jobs every year in prisons and jails. Stay informed. Stay in touch with your co-workers. Know who you can and can't trust.

And take your career seriously!